The myth- " my best thinking got me here "
You've heard it repeated time and time again when especially the topic turns to NOT THINKING.
And;
"your mind is a bad place to be without adult supervision" AND
" I don't go up there because it's a bad neighborhood" etc. etc. etc.
THEN we hear the oft repeated principle "your best thinking got you here."
Your best thinking? REALLY?
Let's be realistic and look at the facts;
1. Under the influence of any substance, we could honestly say one doesn't think their best.
2. Depending on our backgrounds AND the teaching of our parents or guardians we may lack certain necessary decision making skills AND we could honestly say one doesn't think their best under these conditions.
3. Some people are have "birth defects" SO we could honestly say one doesn't think their best under these conditions.
4. People have emotional and mental problems- we could honestly say one doesn't think their best under these conditions.
5. Let's stake the claim that people who use don't mature and stop maturing at a certain age do to using, we could honestly say one doesn't think their best under these conditions.
6. People have serious physical problems they never addressed properly and when in intentse pain, WHO thinks their best?
7. Compare "thinking" as a young person and as an older person- when one has less life experience would they think the same?
So, WAS IT my BEST thinking? ( as if to say I still reason and make choices in the same manner? )
Am I to be HELD HOSTAGE by your principle that I DARE never make a decision or a choice or think?
What about asking God to direct my thinking in Step 11 in the Big Book?
AND that slogan I see at meetings- THINK, THINK, THINK- what then, if I am NOT supposed to think does that mean?
AND you told me if I think about a drink that I should "THINK IT THROUGH?"
AND what about the promises, are they "poppycock" ?
(senseless talk) ;
The Promises
[PROMISES OF STEP TWO
Big Book page #25
• There is a solution.
• We have found much of heaven and we have been rocketed into a fourth dimension of existence of which we had not even dreamed.
• The great fact is just this, and nothing less: That we have had deep and effective spiritual experiences which have revolutionized our whole attitude toward life, toward our fellows and toward God's universe.
• The central fact of our lives today is the absolute certainty that our Creator has entered into our hearts and lives in a way which is indeed miraculous.
• He has commenced to accomplish those things for us which we could never do by ourselves.
Big Book page #28:
• A new life has been given us or, if you prefer, "a design for living" that really works.
• Big Book page #46:
• We found that God does not make too hard terms with those who seek Him.
• To us, the Realm of Spirit is broad, roomy, all inclusive; never exclusive or forbidding to those who earnestly seek. It is open, we believe, to all men.
Big Book page #47:
• As soon as a man can say that he does believe, or is willing to believe, we emphatically assure him that he is on his way.
• It has been repeatedly proven among us that upon this simple cornerstone a wonderfully effective spiritual structure can be built.
Big Book page #50:
• In the face of collapse and despair, in the face of the total failure of their human resources, they found that a new power, peace, happiness, and sense of direction flowed into them.
Big Book page #55:
• Sometimes we had to search fearlessly, but He was there. He was as much a fact as we were. We found the Great Reality deep down within us.
Big Book page #57:
• Even so has God restored us all to our right minds.
• But He has come to all who have honestly sought Him.
• When we drew near to Him He disclosed Himself to us!
[PROMISES OF STEP THREE]
Big Book page #63.
• More and more we became interested in seeing what we could contribute to life.
• As we felt new power flow in, as we enjoyed peace of mind, as we discovered we could face life successfully, as we became conscious of His presence, we began to lose our fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter.
• We were reborn.
• an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once.
Big Book page #68.
• At once, we commence to outgrow fear.
Big Book page #70.
• We have begun to learn tolerance, patience and good will toward all men, even our enemies, for we look on the them as sick people.
[PROMISES OF STEP FIVE]
Big Book page #75:
• Once we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we are delighted.
• We can look the world in the eye.
• We can be alone at perfect peace and ease.
• Our fears fall from us.
• We begin to feel the nearness of our Creator.
• We may have had certain spiritual beliefs, but now we begin to have a spiritual experience.
• The feeling that the drink problem has disappeared will often come strongly.
• We feel we are on the Broad Highway, walking hand in hand with the Spirit of the Universe.
[PROMISES OF STEP EIGHT]
Big Book page #78:
• If our manner is calm, frank, and open, we will be gratified with the result.
• Rarely do we fail to make satisfactory progress..
[ PROMISES OF STEP NINE] (The famous ones)
Big Book page #83-84:
• If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.
• We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
• We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
• We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace.
• No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
• That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.
• We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.
• Self-seeking will slip away.
• Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.
• Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.
• We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.
• We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
• Are these extravagant promises? We think not.
• They are being fulfilled among us-sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly.
• They will always materialize if we work for them.
[PROMISES OF STEP TEN]
Big Book page #84
• And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone -even alcohol.
• For by this time sanity will have returned.
• We will seldom be interested in liquor.
• If tempted, we recoil from it as from a hot flame.
Big Book page #84-85
• We react sanely and normally, and we will find that this has happened automatically.
Big Book page #85
• We will see that our new attitude toward liquor has been given us without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes! That is the miracle of it.
• We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation.
• We have not even sworn off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does not exist for us.
• We are neither cocky nor are we afraid.
[PROMISES OF STEP ELEVEN]
Big Book page #86:
• we can employ our mental faculties with assurance, for after all God gave us brains to use.
• Our thought-life will be placed on a much higher plane when our thinking is cleared of wrong motives.
Big Book page #87 :
• What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind.
• Nevertheless, we find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on the plane of inspiration. We come to rely upon it.
Big Book page #87-88 :
• We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done." We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions.
• We become much more efficient.
• We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves.
[PROMISES OF STEP TWELVE]
Big Book page #89 :
• You can help when no one else can.
• You can secure their confidence when others fail.
• Life will take on new meaning.
Big Book page #100 :
• When we look back, we realize that the things which came to us when we put ourselves in God's hands were better than anything we could have planned.
• Follow the dictates of a Higher Power and you will presently live in a new and wonderful world, no matter what your present circumstances!
• Assuming we are spiritually fit, we can do all sorts of things alcoholics are not supposed to do.
Big Book page #102 :
• God will keep you unharmed.
Reprinted from the book Alcoholics Anonymous (The Big Book)
with permission of A.A. World Services, Inc.
You've heard it repeated time and time again when especially the topic turns to NOT THINKING.
And;
"your mind is a bad place to be without adult supervision" AND
" I don't go up there because it's a bad neighborhood" etc. etc. etc.
THEN we hear the oft repeated principle "your best thinking got you here."
Your best thinking? REALLY?
Let's be realistic and look at the facts;
1. Under the influence of any substance, we could honestly say one doesn't think their best.
2. Depending on our backgrounds AND the teaching of our parents or guardians we may lack certain necessary decision making skills AND we could honestly say one doesn't think their best under these conditions.
3. Some people are have "birth defects" SO we could honestly say one doesn't think their best under these conditions.
4. People have emotional and mental problems- we could honestly say one doesn't think their best under these conditions.
5. Let's stake the claim that people who use don't mature and stop maturing at a certain age do to using, we could honestly say one doesn't think their best under these conditions.
6. People have serious physical problems they never addressed properly and when in intentse pain, WHO thinks their best?
7. Compare "thinking" as a young person and as an older person- when one has less life experience would they think the same?
So, WAS IT my BEST thinking? ( as if to say I still reason and make choices in the same manner? )
Am I to be HELD HOSTAGE by your principle that I DARE never make a decision or a choice or think?
What about asking God to direct my thinking in Step 11 in the Big Book?
AND that slogan I see at meetings- THINK, THINK, THINK- what then, if I am NOT supposed to think does that mean?
AND you told me if I think about a drink that I should "THINK IT THROUGH?"
AND what about the promises, are they "poppycock" ?
(senseless talk) ;
The Promises
[PROMISES OF STEP TWO
Big Book page #25
• There is a solution.
• We have found much of heaven and we have been rocketed into a fourth dimension of existence of which we had not even dreamed.
• The great fact is just this, and nothing less: That we have had deep and effective spiritual experiences which have revolutionized our whole attitude toward life, toward our fellows and toward God's universe.
• The central fact of our lives today is the absolute certainty that our Creator has entered into our hearts and lives in a way which is indeed miraculous.
• He has commenced to accomplish those things for us which we could never do by ourselves.
Big Book page #28:
• A new life has been given us or, if you prefer, "a design for living" that really works.
• Big Book page #46:
• We found that God does not make too hard terms with those who seek Him.
• To us, the Realm of Spirit is broad, roomy, all inclusive; never exclusive or forbidding to those who earnestly seek. It is open, we believe, to all men.
Big Book page #47:
• As soon as a man can say that he does believe, or is willing to believe, we emphatically assure him that he is on his way.
• It has been repeatedly proven among us that upon this simple cornerstone a wonderfully effective spiritual structure can be built.
Big Book page #50:
• In the face of collapse and despair, in the face of the total failure of their human resources, they found that a new power, peace, happiness, and sense of direction flowed into them.
Big Book page #55:
• Sometimes we had to search fearlessly, but He was there. He was as much a fact as we were. We found the Great Reality deep down within us.
Big Book page #57:
• Even so has God restored us all to our right minds.
• But He has come to all who have honestly sought Him.
• When we drew near to Him He disclosed Himself to us!
[PROMISES OF STEP THREE]
Big Book page #63.
• More and more we became interested in seeing what we could contribute to life.
• As we felt new power flow in, as we enjoyed peace of mind, as we discovered we could face life successfully, as we became conscious of His presence, we began to lose our fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter.
• We were reborn.
• an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once.
Big Book page #68.
• At once, we commence to outgrow fear.
Big Book page #70.
• We have begun to learn tolerance, patience and good will toward all men, even our enemies, for we look on the them as sick people.
[PROMISES OF STEP FIVE]
Big Book page #75:
• Once we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we are delighted.
• We can look the world in the eye.
• We can be alone at perfect peace and ease.
• Our fears fall from us.
• We begin to feel the nearness of our Creator.
• We may have had certain spiritual beliefs, but now we begin to have a spiritual experience.
• The feeling that the drink problem has disappeared will often come strongly.
• We feel we are on the Broad Highway, walking hand in hand with the Spirit of the Universe.
[PROMISES OF STEP EIGHT]
Big Book page #78:
• If our manner is calm, frank, and open, we will be gratified with the result.
• Rarely do we fail to make satisfactory progress..
[ PROMISES OF STEP NINE] (The famous ones)
Big Book page #83-84:
• If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.
• We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
• We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
• We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace.
• No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
• That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.
• We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.
• Self-seeking will slip away.
• Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.
• Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.
• We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.
• We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
• Are these extravagant promises? We think not.
• They are being fulfilled among us-sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly.
• They will always materialize if we work for them.
[PROMISES OF STEP TEN]
Big Book page #84
• And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone -even alcohol.
• For by this time sanity will have returned.
• We will seldom be interested in liquor.
• If tempted, we recoil from it as from a hot flame.
Big Book page #84-85
• We react sanely and normally, and we will find that this has happened automatically.
Big Book page #85
• We will see that our new attitude toward liquor has been given us without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes! That is the miracle of it.
• We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation.
• We have not even sworn off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does not exist for us.
• We are neither cocky nor are we afraid.
[PROMISES OF STEP ELEVEN]
Big Book page #86:
• we can employ our mental faculties with assurance, for after all God gave us brains to use.
• Our thought-life will be placed on a much higher plane when our thinking is cleared of wrong motives.
Big Book page #87 :
• What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind.
• Nevertheless, we find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on the plane of inspiration. We come to rely upon it.
Big Book page #87-88 :
• We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done." We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions.
• We become much more efficient.
• We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves.
[PROMISES OF STEP TWELVE]
Big Book page #89 :
• You can help when no one else can.
• You can secure their confidence when others fail.
• Life will take on new meaning.
Big Book page #100 :
• When we look back, we realize that the things which came to us when we put ourselves in God's hands were better than anything we could have planned.
• Follow the dictates of a Higher Power and you will presently live in a new and wonderful world, no matter what your present circumstances!
• Assuming we are spiritually fit, we can do all sorts of things alcoholics are not supposed to do.
Big Book page #102 :
• God will keep you unharmed.
Reprinted from the book Alcoholics Anonymous (The Big Book)
with permission of A.A. World Services, Inc.
I think, well-meaningly, that you have missed the point of the sayings.
ReplyDeleteWhat you say is true, about all those whose thinking is impaired, and so they are. But those impairments need to be recognized, we need to own up to the fact that our own decisions and thoughts (though impaired) have left is at needing to come to step one. If we don't recognize that we have, on our own and for whatever reason, failed and or lives had become unmanageable, then we will continue to work hard, impaired. That is insanity.
Better we should admit our shortfalls and recognize that we need God.